Update

I haven't written anything in the past few days because I haven't really done any approaches in the past few days.  Thursday and Friday I was feeling a bit under the weather, so I didn't bother approaching.  It didn't help that I was on-call  for work and thus didn't go out much.

I must say, though, that I have lost interest in doing the challenge somewhat.  I don't know what it is, but it feels contrived or like my heart isn't in it.  And a lot of the thrill is gone, because it's not really a challenge anymore.  The only challenge is logistics: finding time to try to approach and finding someone I want to approach.

Initially, I thought September was going to be a fun month.  I had plans of using song titles as opening lines and thought that would be really fun.  Then, I got in a relationship and that threw the challenge in a flux.  I still did the challenge, but I thought I would feel weird about approaching women that way while being in a relationship.  So, I kept it neutral.  If I had a good conversation with a woman, I wouldn't ask her for her number, instead I would give her one of my cards that has a link to this site and my facebook page.  Of course, that means never hearing from them again, because I don't think any of the people I give my card to actually look at this blog.  I've given this blog to people I know that haven't even read it, so why would a stranger?

I thought there was something really worthwhile in this challenge, that's one of the things that drove me at the start when I was really nervous talking to people.  I thought that when I told people about it, they would share that excitement and it would be cool.  However, I've found that few people actually really think it's cool.  And I don't even hear from those people again.

In order to get the challenge back on track and actually make it a challenge again, there are two ways I could go with this: approaching multiple women at a time, and approaching guys.  With multiple women, I've avoided that, because it just seems easier and maybe more authentic if it's a one-on-one interaction.  With approaching men, I guess there's a part of me that thinks it's weird for men to approach men like that, even if it is neutral.  Inevitably, though, I know I'm going to have to go there, in the interest of personal evolution.

I haven't given up on the challenge, I just had to really think about where it's going.  I know I can get it back on track.  I will come up with something for October that will be fun and challenging.  If you've gotten this far and you want to help, either leave a comment or email me with ideas. 

Thank you!


Will